I still remember the day as it was yesterday. The "incident' happened in 2
nd grade during P.E. The activity was rope climbing. There were ropes hanging from the ceiling and we were supposed to climb up on them. I was not very successful, and my teacher said to me, for everyone to hear: "You are just not athletic."
This comment has stuck with me until this day even though it's not something I usually talk about. Over the years during P.E. in school I was reminded of this comment numerous times: when I ran the 100 meter dash way to slowly, when I couldn't balance, jump, etc. on the balance beam... There were just so many times that I felt that I wasn't athletic and every time I heard the words of my 2
nd grade teacher in my head. I figured she must have been right...
It's not that I didn't do athletics while being in school. I was on the crew team; I played basketball in an after school program; I played tennis. I felt okay when I did these activities, but when it came to school sports, I felt self-conscious. While most of my classmates looked forward to P.E., I dreaded it. I always feared there would be another moment for me to show how non-athletic I was.
My fear of school P.E. became almost a self fulfilling prophecy. I think I could have probably run a lot faster, balanced better, etc. had I not been so self-conscious. I wish I could tell my 2
nd grade teacher how much she affected my self image when it came to sports.
Luckily, sports and physical activity has been a great enjoyment in my life ever since I left school. I am physically active most days of the week and enjoy hiking and working out at the gym. While I live far away from my childhood friends, I have noticed over the years that some of the "athletic" children are not so athletic anymore.
My point I guess is that we should be very careful and never label children. It can truly affect a child for a long time. I am glad that I have overcome the "non-athletic" label for the most part and have made physical well being a big part of my life.
Be well,
Andrea